some things about living in the country
April 30, 2009 at 8:32 pm | In Michigan, Moving | 7 CommentsWe know NOTHING about living in the country.
J and I both grew up in the ‘burbs. We have lived together in the city. Are we crazy for attempting to find our dream home in the country? Maybe.
But, I think both of us fell in love with the quiet serenity of the woods surrounding the house at the top of our list.
We didn’t realize, though, that financing such a large plot of land (9 acres) is a bit trickier than financing a home on a smaller plot of land. We’re learning that lenders don’t like to do loans on land because it’s easier for the owner to walk away from a plot of land than it is their own home. We’re learning to be creative in how we approach financing something like this.
We’re learning to think about things like wells and septic systems. We’re learning that you have to investigate whether the local cable/internet provider will service your house, and that garbage collection and recycling might be a bit more complicated than it is in the city.
It’s so quiet there. And the privacy! Not that I dislike our city neighbors, but sometimes I want to sit on the porch with a good book without listening to our neighbor’s son’s loud music. Sometimes I want to grill out in the back yard without another neighbor asking me to affirm my love for our doggy (seriously. He was in tears last week because he thought that we’d be getting rid of Barley because we’re moving. I had to confirm repeatedly that we were keeping the dog. That, yes, he is a member of our family, and no, we would not be dropping him off at the shelter on the way out of town).
But, would we actually miss having neighbors? Would our future kids miss out on having friends across the street, or down the block? One of my favorite things about my childhood is that there were always kids around to play kick-the-can or sell lemonade or ride bikes with. Would our kids be too isolated to enjoy that? Or would they become better friends with each other because of it?
I’ll have to remember what its like to have to drive everywhere. (Although, I doubt we’d be able to walk many places or take public transit if we moved to the city of Kalamazoo anyways). The grocery store appears to be a short 20 min drive away – comparable to the drive we currently take to shop at the nearest SuperTarget (after the no-smoking-ban issue, this is my second complaint about Kalamazoo – how will I get by without a SuperTarget!?!)
It’s a lot to think about, and it’s completely uncharted territory for either of us. But, I think we might just try it and find out.
I know that a few of you out there are rolling your eyes and groaning (ahem, dad), and that you probably think its a mistake to even consider buying a house in a city we’ve barely lived in — especially when you take into account that the last two houses we’ve bought and sold in less than 2 years.
Nope, that is not a good history at all.
But, we’re basing our present decisions on the information that we have at present. Kalamazoo is a nice place to live. Jason loves his job, and his boss, and his coworkers. He can’t imagine ever NOT liking this job, and those of you that know him will be quite impressed that this particular job has not produced one. single. complaint. At this point in his career, Jason would not be able to do any better than this new job. Also? I just want to be settled and comfortable in my own house. I want to stay in one place longer than 3 years. Longer than 5-10 years, even. My sanity cannot handle moving again anytime in the near future! So, that’s what we’re working with.
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In totally unrelated news, I wonder if any of you could recommend a new bank to us. The bank where our accounts are held doesn’t have any locations in Michigan. Our choices are: Bank of America, Fifth Third Bank, Keystone Community Bank, Comerica Bank, National City Bank, Charter One Bank and any others any of you recommend. Have you ever banked with any of these before and had great experiences?
welcoming another little someone to the family
April 29, 2009 at 7:59 pm | In Family, Inspiration | 6 CommentsJason’s sister, Bridget, and her Sean are expecting a new little bundle of joy to arrive sometime in September! We couldn’t be more excited for them and we can’t wait to meet the little guy or gal!
So, in honor of them (and because Bridget asked), I’m going to share some of my very favorite nursery themes/ideas/images with all of you. Yay!
For a boy:
I love this vintage rocket-themed room from Mike and McGee. No, it’s not particularly baby-ish, but the theme would last at least through the little guy’s elementary years.
And I love the blue-green nursery created by The Stamford Wife. I especially love the idea of using cards or pages from children’s books as nursery art – it’s cute AND super-affordable.
I love the bright and bold colors in this blue and orange nursery from Serena and Lilly. So cute – and fun! And, if you’re not-so-hot about the orange, you could definitely swap it out for yellow or even green instead.
I also love this adorable animal-themed nursery at Becoming-Home. It’s adorable and nature-y without being too over-the-top. I mean, check out that adorable monkey hanging from the tree! Love him! And, I totally think you could also pull this off if the babe is a boy OR a girl.
For a girl:

I love this pink and brown nursery found at Making it Lovely. The neutral walls paired with brightly-colored bedding, curtains, and even a pink dresser make for a sophisticated – yet girly – nursery.
And this princessy-sweetness is seriously adorable. I love the huge amounts of pink accented with white and just a bit of green. (From Serena and Lily)

If you’re not into pink, how about this sweet blue floral scheme? I love it’s non-pink girly-ness, and I love that the room is paired with a collection of things in varying pastel shades. (Also from Serena and Lily)

I also love this not-quite-as-pink-but-still-girly room – a subtle blue on the walls paired with pinks, oranges, and yellows for a bright and modern nursery. If nothing else, the adorable patterned butterflies on the wall are worth copying! (From RateMySpace) And, I think you could pull this look off with yellow walls, or green walls, or even pink walls.
Is it me, or are all baby rooms pretty darn adorable? Between the tiny clothing and the toys, it would be really hard to go wrong. Also difficult? Choosing just one theme.
Alright, Bridget (and everyone else), I can’t wait to hear what your favorites are… And I certainly can’t wait to find out whether the new one will be a niece or nephew!
a few of my favorite things
April 28, 2009 at 8:48 pm | In Moving | 7 CommentsI am generally distrusting of movers.
I am always a little concerned that they’re going to lose or break something. Not that I have a lot of things that are of high monetary value – I am much more concerned about those items with serious sentimental value. Most other things can be replaced.
Before departing for Michigan last week, I loaded the car full of all sorts of goodies. I was pretty happy with the amount of things I managed to fit in the car. Jason was less than happy about the actual contents of the car. He understood the box of old tax records. He was okay with the boxes of photo albums. He nearly lost it when I pulled out a medium-sized tupperware container filled with the Christmas ornaments that I’ve accumulated since I was a baby.
Anyways, I thought I’d share a few other sentimental favorites that Jason has no use for I insisted on hand-delivering to Michigan.
A pale pink platter from my Great-Grandma (apparently, I asked for it when I was a little girl, and my Grandma kept it safe until I was big enough to have it):
Polka-dot juice glasses, also from my Great-Grandma:
The toasting flutes JT and I used on our wedding day (I love the little bows on them):
This cute little vase also came from my Great-Grandma:
And the awesome quilt made for my wedding shower by my aunt, my mom, and my grandma:
And now? I want to hear about YOUR favorite things? What sentimental goodies are hiding in your closets?
the rest of the weekend
April 27, 2009 at 9:12 pm | In Family, Michigan, Moving | 6 CommentsBarley and I skipped town Wednesday afternoon shortly before our home’s next owner arrived to show her family around. This is worth mentioning because it marks the last time I’ll have to open my house to strangers. No more making the bed with the 15 pillows my Realtor suggested were necessary to make it fluffy and fun! No more hiding the unsightly dish rack under the sink! No more stashing my toothbrush in the drawer before rushing off to work! Yay!
We rolled into the Milwaukee area late Wednesday night, said hi to the fam, and hit the hay. We were really tired.
Thursday, brother Trevor and I met my mom at the hospital and visited with my grandma for a little while. She’s doing as well as someone who has been in the hospital for the past 2 months could do… we joked a little, talked about family/my move/Jason’s job, and decided what she should eat (and if anyone can tell me what lasagna rolls are or why a hospital would think that hospital-style Mahi Mahi would be an appealing choice, you get 10,000 points). Anyways, it seems like everything with my grandma’s health is back and forth – forward 2 steps, back 1. So, if you wanted to keep her in your prayers for a while longer, that would be sweet. And, if you wanted to say a few words for my mom and aunt who have been staying with my Grandma, and for the rest of my family, that would be nice too.
My next stop was Kalamazoo, Michigan. Jason took me to dinner at Fandago, where we had really good Tapas, and then we headed over to the Wine Loft for a drink. Both places were quite swanky and delicious. One of Jason’s colleagues plays in a jazz trio Thursday nights at the Wine Loft, and it was fantastic. My favorite was the jazz version of Vanilla Ice’s Ice, Ice Baby. So cool. Also cool was that the Wine Loft is smoke-free. (So far, my biggest complaint about Kalamazoo is that smoking is not banned from restaurants/bars). After an hour or so at the Wine Loft, we headed over to the 411 Club to harass Jason’s boss watch Jason’s boss play jazz piano. Somehow, shots were ordered and I spent most of the day Friday paying for that decision. Ouch. (who do I think I am? I am clearly not in college anymore, and you would have thought I learned that lesson 2 weeks ago.)
I spent Friday with our MI Realtor, looking at a whole bunch of houses that I will not be purchasing. Friday evening, we caved and bought a TV for Jason’s apartment. I was particularly excited that the friendly Best Buy salesman gave me a 10% discount when I asked for one – no coupon or anything! I am insanely proud of myself, and will be using this technique for all major future purchases. Jason was only slightly embarrassed.
We ate at the Hangar Bar & Grill, an airplane-themed bar with a mean pizza and great fries. Then, back to the apartment to watch movies on the new TV.
Saturday was more house-hunting, tv-watching, and generally just being lazy. We picked up soccer cleats and shinguards for Jason, who will be playing in his employer’s soccer league this spring. I love that he’s working for a company that sponsors such cool events for its employees. It’s so interesting to see how different things are when one is employed by a large company compared with a small company. I’m not sure whether any of Jason’s previous employers could have fielded ONE soccer team, let alone an entire LEAGUE of teams.
Saturday night was eat-in night with more tv-watching. Sunday was more of the same – lazy, lazy, lazy. And then, it was time to start the long drive back.
I left early enough to have dinner with my parents and brother Trevor – the last 2 times I visited, I was only around for a few wakeful hours, so I thought it would be nice to have dinner and real conversations with them.
I made my return trip to MN this morning – tired of driving, sad about missing my husband, and totally anxious about missing work and quitting my job. But! We’re here safe and sound, and that is something to be thankful for.
house hunting
April 25, 2009 at 9:41 pm | In Michigan, Moving | 5 CommentsAfter a second round of house-hunting, Jason’s favorite house is still on the top of the list.
Friday, I went out with our Realtor to see a few more houses – none of which I found too appealing. One was too far from civilization, another had power lines running through the front yard, a third was too close to a very busy highway, and another was just too big and too new (after rejecting that one, our Realtor pointed out that we are a “unique” couple, looking for a “unique” property. Which I think was a nice way of saying, “are you kidding me?”).
Saturday morning, J and I both went with the Realtor. The first house we checked out was so ridiculously awful that it deserves mention. The house was trashed, and we arrived to find glass from a broken window on the porch and cat vomit in the entryway. We should have stopped there and turned around. BUT! we did not. The rest of the house was a strange mess of overly-ornate crucifixes, religious cartoons on the television, and papers describing child custody proceedings. The first two would not have been something that bothered me, had it not been so orthogonal from a disturbing and startling piece of equipment in the third bedroom. A strange apparatus took up most of the third bedroom – at first I thought that it was some sort of exercise equipment… and then I saw the packaging and instruction manual and ran from the house screaming. Horrified. And since this blog is PG, I totally cannot tell you what it was, but I will let your imagination fill in the blanks, and hope that mind erasing drugs are coming to a pharmacy near me sometime soon. Awful, awful, horrible, yuck. *shudder* We later found out that the broken glass from the house was due to an attempted break in shortly before we arrived. Scary!
So, of course I thought that this charming home sitting on a hill in the middle of 9 acres of woods was fantastic. It blows the competition out of the water. By a lot. Also? There’s 9 more acres of land directly to the West of the house available for purchase. But? It needs some work (of course). Check it out:
the front of the house
the view from the garage/driveway
the view of the other side of the house
to your left as you enter the house is the dining room – we’d exchange the carpet for wood floors, remove the wallpaper and paint the walls and get a new chandelier
the kitchen is right behind the dining room and could also use some wallpaper removal, new cabinet/drawer handles, and new lighting, but unlike our Minneapolis kitchen, this kitchen actually has a stove!
the living room is to the right as you enter the house, and runs the entire length of the house. No wallpaper to remove in this room, but we’d eventually like hardwood floors, and maybe a bit of color on the walls.
there’s a small study just off of the living room, which would make a great home office – I’d paint the wood paneling to brighten up the room, remove the tiled ceiling and put in new lighting.
Upstairs, there are 3 decent-sized bedrooms. Here’s Jason standing in the “master bedroom” which would get new paint and new lighting, and the border would be removed.
A second bedroom. For some reason, I didn’t get pictures of the third bedroom, but it looks like this except with green paint on the walls.
The basement is fully finished, and features a large rec-room with a woodburning fireplace. This room would get a much much brighter paint color (white? very light blue?) to make it feel less dungeon-y.
There was another room in the basement that we could use to house our weight bench, or as a guest room if our upstairs bedrooms are ever filled.
There was also a small “potting shed” off the side of the house. Jason thought he might be able to add a bar here, but he’s also got some viable bar options in the 3-car garage or huge pole barn.
The back door led out to a three-season porch with a wood-burning stove and a pond/fountain. Also, check out the view of the back yard – trees forever (and 6 or so acres of those trees will be sold with the house)!
the front yard
the back view of the house, complete with out-of-date and ridiculously large satellite
the pole barn
the loft in the pole barn. great storage space – or, could be converted into a small apartment for visitors
I also wanted to mention that Barley was along for the ride, and he loves the house, too. He pranced around the yard like he was the king of the castle, and then settled in some ground cover.
Jason is going to go on additional house-hunting adventures in the upcoming weeks to see if there’s anything better than this little gem. We’ve been scoping the area – driving around the blocks surrounding the house, investigating the school district, etc, etc. It appears to be in a great area with high median income and home values compared to some of the other surrounding areas, so I think that is a great sign. There’s a bit of development going on in the nearby – large, beautiful brand-new homes in well-laid out subdivisions (these houses remind me of my parent’s house, which is wonderful, but I’m just not quite there yet). However, the blocks surrounding this home are zoned for agriculture, which would make it difficult for a builder to come in and create a new subdivision next door or across the street.
We’re not in a rush to do anything definite on this one – we’re just in investigation mode for now. We need to pull comparable sales in the area and determine whether the home is appropriately-priced. Other than that, is there anything we should be asking? What have we missed? What do you think of the house?
playing hooky
April 21, 2009 at 7:25 pm | In Moving | 6 CommentsJason called me from the driveway of this house this evening (before even walking into the house) to announce that he had found our next home.

I’m playing hooky tomorrow and Friday to check it out. Shh! Don’t tell.
(Also, playing hooky is really stressful for me. I have 200 hours of sick time and never use the time because I feel bad about calling out of work – even when I truly am sick. Its ridiculous, especially when no one will actually have to cover for me – I just have to make up the work that I’m not doing this week at a later date and time. Does anyone else have this problem?)
Anyways, I will be calling these “mental health days” and that seems to make it more appropriate for me to use sick time. I’ll get some good R&R with the family and the hubby and return to work refreshed. Right?
I hope to at least get a decent night’s sleep. As easy as it should be sleeping solo in a queen bed with only one snorer in the room (ahem, Barley), I am finding it incredibly difficult. I like to wake up -terrified- in the middle of the night, imagining someone has broken into my house and is coming to get me. Then, I map out escape routes (how long would it really take me to open that storm window and climb out onto the roof? Could I jump from the roof without breaking anything? Then what? Why isn’t Barley waking up to take care of this?). Paranoia to the max. Seriously. Does anyone else do this or should I go seek professional help (or maybe just move to Michigan already)?
Anyways, this weekend. I’ll be visiting my Grandma (who still needs your prayers for healing), checking out my mom’s new digital SLR camera and lenses, visiting with little brother Trevor and trying to make him look bad so that I can be the favorite child again, and spending some time with that one guy that I married 6 months ago and now live 4 states away from.
a new search for a new home
April 20, 2009 at 5:46 pm | In Moving | 7 CommentsNow that we’ve sold our two houses, it might be time to look for a third.
Is this crazy? Yes. Because people should never live in a house for only a year before selling it. It’s not a good investment. It’s a pain in the rump. I get that.
Yet, I continue to house hunt.
In our past 2 moves, we’d assumed we’d be in each location for at least 5, if not 10 years. If that’s the case, then buying makes sense. However, we’ve lived in each house 1 and 1.5 years, respectively. It’s not a good track record.
Yet, I think we might actually live in Kalamazoo 5-10 years. I hope we live in Kalamazoo for at least 5-10 years. I am really. sick. of. moving.
So, well, we’ve been looking at houses. Again. I actually love looking at houses, love imagining what I would do with them if they were mine – little bit of paint here, new cabinets here, tada! – beautiful.
I also hate searching for a home. It’s tricky to find the perfect one that will fit all of your needs – especially when we’re not certain what new needs we’ll have in the next 5-10 years, if/when we decide to expand our little family of 3.
We’d like to find a 3+ bedroom, 2+ bath home on a few wooded acres. I have my heart set on a little fixer-upper project, or maybe something that’s old but has already been fixed up. I love the charm of older homes, especially the craftsman era, but if they haven’t been kept up, we could be facing major problems. So we’ve also been looking at newer homes – ranches from the 70s and new construction from the 90s. We’d like privacy from the neighbors in the form of trees, and hey, if it happens to be on a lake or have a pool in the backyard or have granite countertops and newly-remodeled bathrooms, we certainly won’t complain.
Anyways, I thought I’d share our favorites from last weekend’s house-hunting trip. You’ll notice that it’s an eclectic bunch…
This 5 bedroom, 3 bath number was alright on the inside. The bedrooms were a bit small, and the inside of the home was dated, but it was located on 5 very wooded acres. Also? This one has an indoor pool in the back, which means that I could hire a cute pool boy it may have a bit more maintenance than we want.
This house was absolutely pristine on the inside. Every little victorian detail was attended to – beautiful wood floors, wood baseboards, two staircases, and everything was decorated according to the period. But? No closets. As in 0. That kind of kills the deal for me.
I love love loved this little 1890s farmhouse. It’s beauty was covered in the most fantastic and hideous 60s regalia you’ve ever seen. But I know she’s got good bones. Good bones, a fireplace, and 4 bedrooms (with closets). I love her. I’m not so sure about the neighbor’s farmland 20 feet from my back door. But if she was in a forest, she’d be as good as sold.
spring – finally!
April 18, 2009 at 2:35 pm | In Photography, Uncategorized | 4 CommentsThe weather has been beautiful here for the past week, and I’ve been sure to take advantage of it by taking Barley on long walks. (Also? Walks are a great stress reducer. Much needed after the ups and downs of the past week!). I brought my camera with me yesterday to document some of the new (and very welcome) spring greenery. Also? I learned a new camera trick – I can now focus on objects that are on the side of the picture while making the background appear blurred. Very impressive, right?
Barley is panting in anticipation of a walk. He has the biggest. doggy. tongue. ever.
A bridge over the creek near our house.
I walked closer to a willow to take some pictures of it’s branches and I found this tiny plastic baby. I think it qualifies as one of the weirdest things I’ve seen at the park.
Okay, this one isn’t green, but I like the texture anyways.
Here’s Barley checking out the lake. Again, BIGGEST DOGGY TONGUE EVER.
two houses sold
April 17, 2009 at 7:33 pm | In Moving | 6 CommentsI have fantastic news.
We sold BOTH of our houses today. (yep, we had TWO houses for sale in this crazy economy)
You’ve heard almost exclusively about our MN house, which has been “acquired” by the relocation company. Meaning, if all goes well with the mold remediation on Monday, we’re done worrying about this house. Even if the buyer backs out, or requests repairs, we don’t have to deal with it. We get our check as soon as the mold goes away.
Our other house is a charming little bungalow in Lexington, Kentucky. You haven’t heard as much about this one because I try to pretend it doesn’t exist and that I don’t have to pay the bills on a house I can’t use. Once upon a time, in 2006, I took a job in Lexington. Jason said he’d come with, but he was sick of moving and we’d have to live in Kentucky for AT LEAST 5 years. So we bought the cutest little bungalow ever.
Nine months later, he left me for a job in St. Paul, Minnesota.
Is anyone sensing a theme here?
Check this out:
- June, 2003 we meet at a conference
- August, 2003 we fall in love and officially begin dating, even though J lives in North Carolina and I live in Minnesota
- August, 2004 J moves to Minnesota and lives in the world’s most disgusting apartment ever
- January, 2005 J moves in with me. Big scandal, especially at the Easter brunch table when my grandma innocently asks about my roommate
- September, 2006 We move to our little bungalow in Kentucky
- July, 2007 J moves back to Minnesota and lives in a 200 sq ft apartment near downtown St. Paul
- October, 2007 I move back to Minnesota and stay at the luxurious, decadent B&B owned by my aunt and uncle (okay, it’s not really a B&B, and I owe them big time)
- December, 2007 We move to our current MN house
- October, 2008 we’re married!
- April, 2009 J moves to Michigan
- ??, 2009 Jen follows
So all in all – that’s 1 year apart, 3 years together, 6 months apart, 1.5 together, 2-6 months apart.
At least the intervals are getting smaller. Maybe sometime soon a weekend away is all Jason will need. Or maybe sometime soon, he will just love his job and we will stop moving. In fact, rumor has it, he loves his job now. I hope writing about it won’t jinx it. Because I’m done with all of this moving nonsense.
End tangent.
Anyways, the main point is that WE SOLD OUR LITTLE BUNGALOW today. Although I am not happy about the purchase price, I am *THRILLED* to not have to worry about taking care of a house that I can’t live in anymore. The offer was contingent on nothing, and we can close as early as Tuesday (4 short days from now!). And now, pictures:
The kitchen was newly remodeled and actually had a stove. I love the orange color that we painted on the walls…
The backyard was awesome, huge, and completely secluded from our neighbors.
Bye, bye little house…
a solution
April 16, 2009 at 8:35 pm | In Family, Moving | 6 CommentsWe managed to reach a compromise re: selling the house. The paperwork will go through tomorrow and the buyer will be able to have an inspection; however, if we fail to get rid of the mold, the contract is void.
My advice to anyone selling their home through a relocation company is DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. I went through our inspection report and noted which items were fixed, the day they were fixed, and who approved the fix. Then, I noted which items did not need to be fixed per the relocation company. I had about 4 items left, and listed who would be fixing them and the date and time of the appointment to fix them.
Jason wrote a little email to HR at his new company, and attached my documentation of everything, as well as emails/invoices confirming appointments made for repairs. Then, something magical happened and I received a call from the relocation company that everything could move forward with the sale.
So, my other advice to anyone dealing with relocation companies is that IF YOU CAN’T GET ANYWHERE WITH THE RELOCATION COMPANY, ASK YOUR EMPLOYER TO HELP.
I’m certain that our ability to get this done is a function of our precise documentation of the situation and the email pushed up to the highest ranks of HR.
What a relief! To celebrate, I had a huge scoop of ice cream for dinner. Yay!
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And, since I had some time to mess around with photos tonight, I thought I’d introduce you to this guy. This is my little brother, and, judging from the old school Camaro in the background, I’d say he has claimed the coveted favorite child position in our family.
Seriously. What 11-year old has a Camaro?!?! (I should mention that it might take him a few years to fix it up. What a cool project!).
I am definitely going to need a solid plan of attack to reclaim my status as favorite child.
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